Hello and welcome to my blog. My very first question comes from a woman who wishes to remain anonymous. Her question to me is this:

Q: “When dating a married man, where exactly is the respect line drawn? For example, how soon do you cancel dates or should the married man always make a way to respond to texts, emails etc. And is it okay to ask exactly how he views you? Basically how do I establish where we stand in the relationship?”

A: Dear reader: “First and foremost when dating anyone married or not the respect line must be drawn with a sharpie marker from the beginning. You have to understand that he’s carrying on two relationships so dates will be broken and text and emails will go unanswered. However, you are giving him a piece of you so he should show some initiative and respect to contact you as soon as he can to explain why he cancelled or couldn’t call. You come second to his wife ALWAYS so don’t ever let yourself think otherwise. You have to separate your feelings and realize that this is only a fuck thing for him no matter what he says or does to contradict this. He is a liar and cannot be trusted because look at the way he’s treating the woman he took vows with. And yes, this advice is being offered via personal experience.”